It is alright to Grieve…

Positivity….what does this word really mean to you! I have been thinking around this word and about this whole concept for quite some time now – and I kind of got stuck on this one for the longest time. Even as I thought and delved – I have remained in a state of fix.

The world today is abundantly talking about ‘Being Positive’…Be it self-help or motivational books or the various media bursts. There has been a sudden spurt of this whole idea of positive thinking, positive actions, the power of positivity and the entire mélange.

Whether it is about examination performances or professional work challenges…Dealing with health issues or encountering loss of loved ones…Peer pressures or life balance issues…Fading Relationships or fear of the unknowns…Right from a child falling down while riding a bicycle to an adult who strives hard to lead a life of choice…The Gen X to Y and Z and even a lot of boomers – all are engulfed in the philosophy of positivity!

I ask myself this question – Are we truly facing our failures? Or are we training our minds to overlook our actions in the process by simply trying to transform all our letdowns to a positive thought! Are we recognizing the emotions…the passions…the reactions…that we hold as humans!

And I wonder – is this an explosion!

If a child falls down while learning to ride a bicycle – is it not just okay for the child to cry! If a teen has had a crush break – is it not just okay for the heart to feel gloomy! Low grades at school or a missed opportunity – is it not just alright to vent it out! Struggles at work…Inadequacies of our mind, body and soul – is it not just okay to feel dejected! The world has been facing a terrible virus for a long time now, with people having lost their near and dear ones – is it not just okay to mourn…to grieve!

Well, I am not implying that we remain in our sorrows. Nor am I trying to say that we need to be anti-positive. But, should we not try attempting this organically. An optimistic thought will certainly germinate when one is healthy in one’s own character. But, if the heart and mind are wrecked – they surely need to heal…and all we need for it – is an interval…a genuine reach and a heart that listens!

Is it not good to have expressions…just a normal and natural language of emotions – be it crying or venting…dejection or mourning and even grieving…simple sharing of our feelings!

I feel it is alright to do so…it is after all – alright to grieve!